telling first wife about second marriage

I have just convertted ti Islam, on my own will! Im 46 years old widow and have just married a 53 year old Mulim born married man, after I met him 9 months ago. We love each other very much and this was a desiccion he wanted to make, so we did. I have a big concern. He has not told his wife of 30 years of maariage, and is older than him, and not well. I have asked him please to at least tell her, even if its not a need to asked. Out of respect as a women. I also asked him what will happen now, when does he stay over my me, now that we are married? I can see this is stressing him because he says his wife is not as strong as me and will never allow him to marry again. I fnd that very sad, because now he has to tell her. Where do I stand with this? I ove this man and I know he loves me too, but I dont want to see him so worried. Is it wrong for me to suggest he divoce one of us, even if its me, only because I love him so much and cant bear to see the woory in his eyes. Can he divorce me if I ask him to even after only been married for 2 weeks? Im sad by this, but I want to do the right thing and be haapy and see him happy? I am a very educated women, financially stable, selfemployed, and we are now going into business together. How do I deal with this? I sometimes ask the question why he married me, for what real reason? Please help!