Talaaq after adultery

Question ID: 14026

. I dont know where to start.I havent been the a great father to my children and a husband to my wife,due to the hard pain i’ve put them through.Me and my wife was living almost seperate lives two years ago and we only like slept together once a month.During that time i was distracted by satan.It came under my wife’s attention that i had an affair with another womem a year ago and since then i admitted to it and asked for forgiveness to her and my two children.
My life since that time changed and my family bears withness to this.My wife on the other hand insist that she wants a divorce,since she cant carry on with the pain that i caused.Her father and the Moulana talk to her already and just today she asked me again,what must she do to get out of this mairrage.
I really dont know what to do because everytime if she asked me for a divorce and i tell her ok i will grant it,then she tells me “yes go to your girlfriends” and then she becomes nasty and calls me names.
We have been married for 19 years now.
I need advice on this kanalla,cause i really dont know what to do.

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Asked on October 13, 2014 4:14 pm
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This is a very sensitive matter because it relates to sentiments, emotions, and the heart. Your wife needs to go for counseling and give her space and time to adjust to what has transpired. Give her time. Also, know that you have caused this problem. Make Istikfaar, Taubah, and Du'aa in abundance. Become extra nice and good to her. Do those things that will win her trust and confidence back. Matters should ease InshaAllaah.
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Answered on October 13, 2014 4:14 pm