It is with great sadness that I ask this question, I have been married for almost 4 years now, at the beginning our marriage was great, every thing was going well, my wife and I were both happy, for the last year or so, my wife has lost her urge to have sexual intercourse, she says she doesn’t feel like it, I’ve tried to cuddle her, kissing her, touching her, but she just pushes me away!I tell her everyday how beautiful she is and how much I love her. We were both virgins when we got married. At first it was difficult to satisfy her as we were both inexperienced, but Shukran I have managed to overcome that!
She mentions that it gets sore sometimes, so we used lubrication, before she used to hug and kiss me when I came from work, but no more! I find it difficult to even get a kiss outoif her.
We have had intercourse now and then but not as often as I would like! It’s currently like once a month!
Why I have written to you is: since my wife is not satisfying my needs, I have turned to a life of porn and masturbation. Now lately I have been on some websites like gumtree.co.za where you can contact women to NSA relationships, (no strings attached) and women offering services in exchange for cash! I was so tempted that I have even made contact with these women! Shukran, I have not gone any further that e-mail contact! I have started having dreams about other women sexually, but the fear of Allah and the love of my wife I couldn’t commit that act in my dream! I have been masturbating so much lately to satisfy myself and to prevent my self meeting other women that my semen has begun to thin.
I also want to have children, and with me and my wife not having intercourse often I don’t see this happening! Are there any Islamic remedies for increasing sexual health and semen strength? And any duas for me and my wife to rekindle our intimate relations?
Please I need help!