People undermining islam and muslims

Most people in western societies are very much secular in the sense that religion is virtually absent in people lives. As a Muslim who naturally remembers Allahu Ta’alaa and Rasuulullaah (Salla Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) and is pious and religious just by his nature Wal Hamdulillah, when talking to secular people in the West, they often, in fact, most times accuse the Muslim as being ?preachy,a person who preaches. This is very puzzling since when I am talking to them, many times I am not even intending to preach. And even if I did intend, I am proud to preach Islam and express my Islamic identity. It seems to me that the essence of such people is that they want to hear nothing religious since the truth (Islam) is inconvenient for them, so they immediately attach a label to stigmatize it. My question is: how do we effectively respond and deal with such labels and secular people (who dominate the West) who say that you shouldnt be?preach