Question ID: 28109


I have been married for almost a year now. My husband is an only child so i had no option but to agree to live with his mum. His parents are divorced and he has no contact with his father. His mum however, interferes too much in our relationship. She wont give us privacy, she treats my husband like he is a baby quite literally, she is rude to both him and me and when we stand up to her, she says we are disrespecting her. My husband and i are not even allowed to go out as she gets cross, she expects us to take her everywhere we go. She is also permanently ill, which also prevents us from going out as my husband needs to baby sit her. He also has to rub her legs and hands at night. I’m not even allowed to make anything for my husband as she gets cross.

The situation has become so bad that my husband and i are constantly fighting and we currently “separated”. I do not want to get divorced.

Please can you advise me as to what i can do regarding my situation.
Also, please tell me what the rulings in Islam are regarding living with in-laws and a sons duty to his mother?

Jazakallah for your help!!

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Asked on October 26, 2008 12:00 am
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Go to 'Muslim Help line', 'care line' or 'Crisis Centre' for counselling. Your Husband unfortunately is presenting a formula for divorce. Unfortunately if he does not change then this marriage is going to break. However if you go back and bear this Un-Islaamic hardships with 'Sabr' Jannat will be for you
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Answered on October 26, 2008 12:00 am