My husband beat my 2 children (aged 10 and 11) badly when they did not perform well in a sports competition. I left home without his permission and stayed with a friend. I called him in the evening to tell him that I was not coming home. He was very angry and said the words, “If you don’t come home by 9.00 pm, you will be divorced.” After thinking carefully, I decided to go home, for the better good of the children and the marriage and our religion. However, I couldn’t find a taxi and it was almost 9.00 pm. I messaged him saying that I couldn’t find a taxi and that we were coming home. He did not reply. I reached home at about 10.00 pm. My friend told me before I left her house, after asking an ustazah by phone, that I am already divorced and that I should watch iddah. When I reached home, I slept in my daughter’s room. My husband came back later that night and slept alone in our room. Things went as per normal, i.e. I cook his meal, serve him etc but he told me that since I did not sleep in our room, and as a punishment for me for leaving the house without his permission, I will continue to sleep in my daughter’s room. I told him that I left because he was beating the children and I was just trying to save them from him as he had said that he would continue beating them until they do well in the sports. 2 weeks later, he called me into the room and scolded me again for leaving the house without his permission. He told me to apologize and I did and he said that should be the last time I leave the house. Again I told him that I left because I didn’t want him to hurt the children. He said he did it because he wants the best for them. We had sex after that and everything went back to normal, i.e. I started to sleep in our room again. My questions are:- (1) Was I divorced when he said the above sentence? (2) If yes, by having sex, does it constitute ruju’?
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