Istikhara for marriage proposals

Question ID: 29788

Mufti sb, Aoa.
In october, a mother came to our house to see me for marraige to her son. the woman left and few hours later called my mother to express pure joy and happiness to find me and my family very well suited. The next weekend for arranged for her son to meet us. few days after the meeting, the woman called my mom that she hasnt seen positive istikhara. the lady who introduced our family later told my parents that the woman is worried as she asked many people to do istikhara but none has seen anything positive. months passed and few days back the woman called us again that she had found another alim and would get back to us after the result of istikhara. Mufti sb, am in great despair for a lot of reasons. please tell me the following:

1. if the istikhara this time is in favor, should we go ahead with the proposal. I have doubts about the family’s motives being very materialistic and greedy rather than going for virtue.

2. is it necessary for isktikhara to be done for a marraige proposal. if it is not done, what are the consequences for people in future?

Thank you for your time, may Allah Almighty bless you in abundance.

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Asked on January 8, 2014 4:27 pm
Private answer

1. You yourself should make Istikhara, you should be guided.

2. It is good to make Istikhara but it it is not Fardh or Waajib to do so.

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Answered on January 8, 2014 4:27 pm