Finalise separation

Question ID: 28148

As Salaammu Alaikum

It is with great sadness that I approach you regarding my marriage.
I have been married for 17 years and Have been through a two year separation.
The circumstances that led to the breakdown was due to a lack of interest on behalf of my husband. We lived together all these years but never had any sexual relations. Also there was a lack of communication between the two of us.I worked and he refused to work. We were blessed with a son at the beginning of the marriage and stayed together because of my son. I left as I felt that we were living a lie and were fighting more than bonding and to me this is a sin. My husband always felt that we should never had married and hated me.

During the two year separation no effort was made to reconcile on his behalf.He has settled down to a stable work .
Today he communicated to me that we should finalise our separation as it was not good to carry on. I agree with him and am ready to take the neccessary steps to move on.

Do I still sit in idat after two years? Also I am a working mother. Most of my time is spent at home and at work.I have also completed the last 10 days itikaaf of Ramadaan.

Please advise?

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Asked on October 11, 2008 12:00 am
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Sit for Iddat

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Answered on October 11, 2008 12:00 am