What to look for in a spouse and doing background checks

Question ID: 25953

Assalamu Alaykum

I wanted to know what should one look for in a potential spouse when wanting to get married from the quraan and hadith?

Also if a female is divorced will it be fine to go find out via the community and ex husband what went wrong in their marriage to consider whether to get married to her? For eg a man is interested in a female who is previously divorced. The boy is happy to get married whilst his mother does not embrace the idea that her son should get married to a divorced women. In order to carry out background checks on her and her family his mother recommends that he gets in touch with her ex husbands friends and find out what type of a person she was when she was initially married and why their marriage broke? Is this necessary?

How should one then go about doing background checks on a divorced female?

JazakaAllahu Khair

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Asked on November 29, 2012 1:49 am
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Which ex-husband is going to give a good reference? Look for Imaan, Islaam, Ilm, practicality, child-naturing qualities.Enquire from her near family members.
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Answered on November 29, 2012 1:49 am