Uncertain of status of marriage

I gave my wife a written talaq when she had her menses. Three months later I gave her another written talaq. One week after having given her the second talaq I gave her a written third talaq but she did not read the letter and it was only after a week when she opened the letter because her father wanted it. During the time before she could read the third talaq, I told her to come back home. Not once did I ever pronounce talaq to her.
Am I divorced or married as I told her to come back BEFORE she could read the third talaq.? We want to reconcile the marriage.