I’m feeling disappointed. My parents refuse to understand how we feel all they Care about is whether they are listened or not to and their ego sometimes its very hard to listen to my mother especially as there is too much drama is constant nagging drowning in sorrow and cursing it gets hard to be around her. On the other hand my father has never really been with us much I’ve raised with both of them through talks actions and arguments how they need to change as parents is follow Qur’an and sunnah and be of better positive mindset for their kids I Dont want to upset them but because they refuse to change or even tell their sons they are wrong or what not as long as the family does their own thing and doesn’t interfere with each others problems its OK do what u like haraam etc open policy. I sometimes feel trapped in this environment there’s constant laziness from their part and constant blame and they take no responsibility I’m in my 30s I feel like I need to address these issues according to them when I get married the problems will disappear (how childish I know) I’m always put on the spot for everything maybe I over think but only I know what I have been through in this family. I find my parents to be worse than my siblings but I know I have to be merciful a conversation turns into drama and even their bit to find us partners is done with huge laziness and like a why do we need to do it attitude
I sometimes feel very shocked at their attitude it makes me want to stay away from them distance myself I become when things go on a bit very detached and annoyed and irritable.