Balance between child rearing and serving Allah

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السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَ بَرَكَاتُهُ
I trust this email finds you in the best of health. Mufti I am a Muslim women of 31 years, from South Africa ,a pharmacist by profession and I have completed my hifz 15 years ago

I recently had my 1st baby after 7 years of marriage as I felt I was not ready for kids before that much to the disappointment of my husband.

I am feeling overwhelmed by the amount of constant tending that the newborn needs. Alhamdulilah I feel blessed to contribute to the ummah of Nabi( Saw) but I feel disillusioned and sad as I cannot pursue avenues that lead to serving Islam and Allah( SWT)

my question is how can I become a more productive muslimah by serving Allah cause if this tedious and monotonous routine will keep me busy for the next 20 to 30 years?

What if all my life is spent in just raising kids and I don’t contribute much financially or by leaving knowledge Behind , because I don’t have much islamic knowledge, I didn’t complete my 6 year aalima course only did 3 years and had to leave because of the baby.

Does Mufti wife also give Dawah? could Mufti enlighten me by giving me a few ideas on how Mufti wife balances between child rearing and contributing to serving Allah so that I can draw inspiration and not feel so disheartened?

Maaf for inconveniencing Mufti
May Allah always keep you steadfast and may He always shower His mercy and blessings on Mufti and family

Your sister in Islam

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Asked on August 10, 2016 5:51 pm
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السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُاللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

Kindly note that children are not a burden, Nabi (S.A.W) has clearly stated that the mother’s responsibility is to care, nurture, nourish and bring up the children.
For that the mother will be held accountable.
So care for the well being of your child and earn the pleasure of your husband.
Dawaat and Tabligh is not the duty of Muslim Females.

وَعَلَيْكُمُ السَّلَام وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ وَمَغْفِرَتُهُ
Mufti Elias

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Answered on August 11, 2016 10:01 pm