assalamualaikum, i know i might be treading sensitive and controversial territory but would it be possible for respected mufti to educate me about the issue of polygamy and hoor al ayn in jannah,,it is most womens’ardent desire to be in an exclusive relationship with her husband, sometimes a women makes lots of sacrifices in marriage, especially when she has to put up with difficult in laws living with them, bringing up children, sacrificing sleep, etc much more than men ever realise and all she wants is for a man to love and cherish her, be loyal and faithful and treat her the way she deserves to be treated and cherishe
in this life, if we want to live alone with our husbands without in laws and interference and if our husbands don’t provide us with a suitable residence that is conducive to having marital privacy, happiness will we be rewarded for putting up with injustice, and will Allah will i be able to live without interference and in laws in the hereafter (provided that i am a good righteous muslim wife and i pass the test of this life)?
Please forgive me for my insolence but this matter is on many womens minds and it depresses many of us aswell..most of us feel demotivated as Allah mentions hoor al ayn for men in the Quran and mentions an “equivalent delight” for women but doesnt specify what it is..but an equivalent delight for women will be an exclusive and monogamous relationship wtih her husband..but when this is ruled out by Allah mentioning hoor al ayn..we lose hope because we would cherish having an exclusive relationship rather than having palaces, jewelry, servants, clothing, even if its a much greater quality that the human mind cannot perceive. all this will be fruitless if we cannot be given the epitome of being cherished and happiness to be the “one and only beloved woman” of my husband
jazakallah khair for all the knowledge that you have been educating us with thus far. May Allah (SWT) reward you abudantly and elevate your stages in the highest abodes of jannah. Ameen