Question ID: 40089

assalamualaikum, i know i might be treading sensitive and controversial territory but would it be possible for respected mufti to educate me about the issue of polygamy and hoor al ayn in jannah,,it is most womens’ardent desire to be in an exclusive relationship with her husband, sometimes a women makes lots of sacrifices in marriage, especially when she has to put up with difficult in laws living with them, bringing up children, sacrificing sleep, etc much more than men ever realise and all she wants is for a man to love and cherish her, be loyal and faithful and treat her the way she deserves to be treated and cherishe
in this life, if we want to live alone with our husbands without in laws and interference and if our husbands don’t provide us with a suitable residence that is conducive to having marital privacy, happiness will we be rewarded for putting up with injustice, and will Allah will i be able to live without interference and in laws in the hereafter (provided that i am a good righteous muslim wife and i pass the test of this life)?
Please forgive me for my insolence but this matter is on many womens minds and it depresses many of us aswell..most of us feel demotivated as Allah mentions hoor al ayn for men in the Quran and mentions an “equivalent delight” for women but doesnt specify what it is..but an equivalent delight for women will be an exclusive and monogamous relationship wtih her husband..but when this is ruled out by Allah mentioning hoor al ayn..we lose hope because we would cherish having an exclusive relationship rather than having palaces, jewelry, servants, clothing, even if its a much greater quality that the human mind cannot perceive. all this will be fruitless if we cannot be given the epitome of being cherished and happiness to be the “one and only beloved woman” of my husband
jazakallah khair for all the knowledge that you have been educating us with thus far. May Allah (SWT) reward you abudantly and elevate your stages in the highest abodes of jannah. Ameen

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Asked on January 1, 1970 12:00 am
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Because you have not understood some basic principles thus you are utterly confused and bordering on Kufr thought.
Firstly the boons and favours in Jannat are determined by the Sharia and NOT Indian traditional scholars. Secondly - one cannot question the doings of Allaah, Thirdly - men and woman are NOT equal - (see Female leadership is Islaam book on website). Fourthly - the duties, responsibilities and role of men and women are totally different.
Just as the women have difficulties on earth so does the men, from in-laws, public, earning, and life as a whole.
Man and women are equal in the law of Islaam in most aspects, this there equity but not equality.
For women there is for example NO JAMAAT SALAAT, No Imaamat, No Adhaan, No Jihaad, No Eid in Jamaat, not to be custodian of Man, Not to be bread winner. Thus should not the man be rewarded for his efforts also.
Moreover the feeling of jealousy will not EXist in Jannat thus there will be no pain, no frustration and no difficulty what so ever. This must be fully understand whilst the wife will be the Queen/head of the Hoors.
Also mere entry into Jannat for a mere moment will result in total removal and forgetting all forms of every pain and difficulty in this world. Furthermore just getting into Jannat will be a great favour and boon of Allaah.
Allaah is All wise and full of wisdom who cannot be questioned and moreover He is absolutely Fair and Just.
May Allaah grant all of us the ability to understand so that we do not leave the fold of Islaam without even knowing that the arrow has let the bow long ago.

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Answered on January 1, 1970 12:00 am