assalamualaikum, i know i might be treading sensitive and controversial territory but would it be possible for respected mufti to educate me about the issue of polygamy and hoor al ayn in jannah,,it is most womens’ardent desire to be in an exclusive relationship with her husband, sometimes a women makes lots of sacrifices in marriage, especially when she has to put up with difficult in laws living with them, bringing up children, sacrificing sleep, etc much more than men ever realise and all she wants is for a man to love and cherish her, be loyal and faithful and treat her the way she deserves to be treated and cherishe
How come jealousy is a female product? When men are jealous, their jealousy is labeled as ghayrah (attack on morality). Bur when women are jealous, they are labeled as jealous beings? How I see it, being neutral, jealousy is a human product and not just a female thing. Allah created one mate, at least thats what is mentioned in the Quran, for Adam (peace be upon him).Therefore it is the fitrah of every male and female to feel jealousy when it is about sharing ones spouse. Men are more possessive and would react in a similar way, even worse when it is about sharing their spouse. The reason is because we are both human beings. I totally agree with the acceptance of polygamy in this life, because it is a solution advised in the situations to avoid the haram. But it is discouraged by putting conditions on it. But paradise is every Muslims (men and women) goal. It doesnt sound/feel right to the fitrah that it will be more rewarding towards men and again will require females to sacrifice and share. No matter how you put it, it is sharing the reward when ones husband will have at least two other wives.