Pakistani wedding traditions

Question ID: 33752


In the Pakistani wedding traditions, probably copied from Hindu and Sikh traditions. Some pakistani families do the following traditions during the wedding day:

1)Candles – The family is also led by the girls carrying tea-light candle plates, this is based on the Hindu tradition of avoiding bad luck and sending oms to the Gods. In the Pakistani tradition, no such thing happens but as part of the general theme it looks decorous therefore lthe girls carry tea-light candle plates during one of the wedding days, most likely the Mehndi days. Some of the girls will also dance using dandiya (decorated sticks).

2)Darwaza Rukai (dooway blocking): when the bride comes to the grooms house on the wedding day(baraat day), the groom’s mother, sister, aunty or other members of the groom’s family stand in the doorway. They then get a pot of water, usually in a LOTA and circle it around the bride’s head as the bride stands infront of the door of the grooms house. Once the member of the family circles it once or twice they then try to drink it.However the groom can stop the member of the family from drinking it. If so, then the member of the family will continue to circle the Lota around the bride’s head until the groom lets his family member who is circling the pot around the bride drink it.

3)A member of the family or a best man ties a red thread (gaana) on the groom and the bridesmaids or a member of the family tie a red thread (gaana) on the bride’s wrists when they get married or on the wedding day after the Nikaah or at some point on the wedding day or during the wedding week before the Nikaah, possibly on the Mehndi day/night.. A lot of knots get tied on this red thread. The Bride and Groom then try to open each others knots on the red thread on the wedding day or after the weddind day. And whoever manages to open the knots on the Gaana(red thread) then they will be clever or good or a loyal spouse. Sometimes The Bride and Groom don’t open the thread and leave it for a number of days or a week otherwise they believe it will be bad luck or believe something bad will happen to their marriage.

Sikhs also tie the red thread (gaana), same name used, but have a different meaning to it, however the pakistani people don’t do it for the same reason as the sikhs.

For the Sikh wedding tradition gaana ceremony takes place the morning of the wedding day. The gaana ceremony is performed separately for both the groom and the bride. A priest does pooja/prayer and ties a red thread to the bride’s right wrist in her house. The same custom is repeated with the groom in his house but it is tied to his left wrist. The bride’s thread has auspicious items like supari/sugar, an iron ring/key chain, a cowrie shell, pearls and beads of mustard tied to it in a small cloth. This is for protection and to ward off an evil eye. After this the bride or the groom do not step out of their respective houses till the wedding ceremony is over.

Does doing any of the above pakistani wedding traditions (rasams) cause kufr or make the pakistani Bride and Groom kaafirs?


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Asked on May 27, 2017 2:34 am
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All the above useless, vain, futile, non-sense, evil and no bases practices must be stopped immediately.
These cause most of the problems in the marriage.

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Answered on June 15, 2017 6:05 pm