Massallah pertaining to family ties

Question ID: 40946

Assa laa mu alai kum mufti
I would like to know if it is permissible not to keep company or visit a sibling if they are always creating problems, between the other siblings. We are all married and live in our own houses. This has been going on for many years now and I am so tired of it that I just stopped all communication with her. She don’t come to my house anymore since she is angry with me because I defended an innocent person. Also verbally abused me for no reason and lied to other family members about me. I am not angry with her, I just don’t want to go through all this again since I have been through it many times before.
Another reason why I am asking this question is that I am going for umrah inshala I also want to do the right thing so that my umrah can be accepted and I want to go with a clear mind. Do I have to go to her house and ask for maaf even though I am innocent. I don’t mind to go but I also don’t want to encourage her to come to my house while I am away.
Am I allowed to lie and say I don’t know to one sister if she ask me something about the other sister to prevent from hurting her feelings and possibly creating a bigger problem between the two of them when in actual fact I know what is going on but I don’t want to hurt her feelings because she is a very good and soft hearted person.
Jazakala for your time and answering my questions. May Allah subhana hu tala reward you for helping all of us who are in need of guidance.

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Asked on April 3, 2011 2:43 pm
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You may abstain to maintain peace. Yes phone, greet, even seek Maaf before going for Umrah.
Make a lot of Duaa there and do not feel guilty.

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Answered on April 3, 2011 2:43 pm