Marriage-2nd wife

Question ID: 18890

Asalamu Alaukum,

Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem

Am married for about two months now as a second wife, it was officially the guy is form another Country but the parents are based where i leave, so his always up and down his home and here.The wife knows his married,during the first month of our marriage we had so much ups and downs. After a month and few days he decided to go back to his home where the first wife is, he left very happily and we had no issues, as soon as he arrived he kept in touch with me only twice as a wife,from there it was all about work work work!!! he claimed his very busy the only massage that he sends me is regarding his job that he left me to take care of it. and the text is sent to me in a formal way nothing much. these has been really stressing me i kept texting him asking him the problem but he never replies to me and if i decide to call he makes the conversation short and claims that his bust or sometime hang up my call while its ringing. I tried so many ways to know the reason behind all this but i don’t understand why the sudden change and he refuses to tell me the reason all what he does is neglect me. Please Sheikh advise me on this matter.


JazakAllah Kheir.
Asked on November 10, 2015 2:49 pm
Those people who handed you over in marriage must be contacted to intervene in your matter.
Failing which the local Ulema body must be asked to intervene.
Answered on November 25, 2015 10:41 am

Asalamu Aleikum Sheikh,

I did exactly as you advices me on the above massage… He actually got worse after being called and was advised what his doing is wrong. He decided to stop talking to me he always keep repeating the following words to me… ” it will be a great challenge to live with you or maybe impossible I really fear deep inside me” reason telling me all this is because I complained. And it really upset him. Please advise sheikh.

JazakAllah kheir

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Asked on January 1, 2016 2:49 pm
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If he does not fulfil your marriage rights and provide for you financially, review your situation whether you want to maintain the relationship or not.

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Answered on January 10, 2016 2:01 pm