Attending ladies Taalim

Assalamu Alaikum Muftisaheb

Please offer some advice as this issue has been troubling me for some time.
1.) Regarding the weekly taalim that women in my community attend, I have noticed that even though we have about 3 to 4 Aalims in the close community, none of their wives attend the weekly taalim. This has made me wonder if there is something they know that I do not know about whether attending the taalim is perhaps wrong? Is this practice proven in Islam?

2.) once while attending taalim one of the ladies who was giving the talk at the end of the program said that if we do not attend the taalim it means that we have Comitted some sin or that Allah has deprived us of the blessing of this gathering so we should ponder what wrong we have done when we do not attend taalim. This did not sit well with me at all as I feel that we have other obligations to attend to such as child care etc. which is perfectly halal and also a good deed and is often the reason I miss taalim as my baby was asleep. Is this statement made by the sister true?

3.) please advise why is there a set theme for the taalim I.e the 6points, reading from Fadaail A’maal and short talk? Is this standard in the tabligh jamaat?

Jazakallah Khayr, may Allah reward you