As salaam ualaikum
i am a female married for 15 years, the first 8 years of marriage was difficult due to my father in law bring a second wife to the home on the eve of my marriage, i was not directly involved in thier quarrels but it did affect my husband and my privacy but i stood by them through difficult times and even when my husband was diagnosed with tb afterwe we evicted we pulled through. The problem is this that i am frustrated that over the years as much as i understand the diiculties with his father taking us out of home (my mother in law and sister in law now live with me) my husband has not proved to be a good provider. he had excuses before but now 7 years later i am stil the sole provider…yet he is sound of mind and body. i work 2 jobs to provide and do not have sufficient time with my 2 daughters. I do not keep any of my earnings for myself as he claims all for our debts nd living expenses. I am frustrated and tired of always propping him up. furthermore he does not meet his obligation to me in bed and this further frustrates…only he derives benefit of this marriage and i have told him so but he just get angry and turns aways but hasnt changed always finds excuse for his behaviour including finding fault with me. like when a year ago i went to my father without his permission to tell him off the debt burden and his failure to provide, this is the first time i approached my family with my problems as it become too much for me to bear , my father came back home with me and told us to join in equal effort , he agreed but when my father left he accused me of disgracing him , if not my father who should i turn to?
he preaches alot about islam but fails his basic duty
please advise on his duties as a provider of the family and husband duties although i have no wish to leave him he needs to be made aware of the wrong he is doing.
