Rights of grandparents with regards to access to grandchildren

Question ID: 21710

السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَ بَرَكَاتُهُ
I trust this email finds you in the best of health. Mufti I recently gave birth to my first child. My husband and I live in the same yard as my mother in law. She doesn’t have a husband and she relies on my husband financially.

She insists she wants to see my baby everyday. I am very possessive and don’t like to see her hold my baby and play with her. I feel once a week visit is sufficient the rest of the time I would like my husband and I to bond with our baby alone.

Is there any injunctions stipulated In the shariah regarding this matter

My question are:
1) what rights to grandparents have with regards to access to the grandchildren?

2)Do I have a right to keep my baby away from my mother in law as I feel I don’t really like her and don’t want her to influence my child, or will this be akin to breaking family ties?

3) my mother in law is very emotionally attached to my husband and she calls him and speaks to him about family matters the going on’s in her life, I feel as if my husband is her surrogate husband as she doesn’t have one. Am I wrong to feel this way as I know there are so many mothers out there that don’t have husband yet they are independent and not so emotionally invested in their sons.

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Asked on August 17, 2016 3:14 pm
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السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُاللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

1.) Once a week.
2.) Do not fight, accommodate. Learn to live with it.
3.) You should be happy your husband is going to his mother in this age. Request him to make visits short.

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Mufti Elias

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Answered on August 22, 2016 2:00 pm