Sister accusing you and trying to destroy relationships you have with other people

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I need some advice
My sister is always accusing me of things like 15 years in the past she holds grudges and gets her back on me when she can she’s always gossiping about me to her friends and my other siblings I know this because she says it sometimes and I can see a major change in their behaviour toward me she’s always got an issue and tries to create rifts between me and someone else I have a relationship with whether it’s my mother or father or nephew whoever she’s always trying to get one up me control others and make herself look good recently we talked about it after 5 years or so and she is Still accusing me of the same I told her to move on and live her life and stop interfering and judging my relationships when I confront her on her actions or call her out or ask for a response she gets defensive answers what she likes very selective or says she doesn’t want to talk to me so it’s ok for these people to accuse me but when I do the same they shut down I’m really fed up it bothers me less now but obviously as a Muslim I want a good relationship with her she says I broke her trust by telling my mum she was pregnant when my mum kept asking me and nearly broke down in tears I had no malicious intent I told my mother as she begged me to tell and I thought my mother would help her since then 15 years ago she can’t get over it. I really want to be so anti Islamic and slap her face for the stuff she puts me through its been very painful she just doesn’t seem to get the behaviour constant mentioning shit stirring and now even to the point they all ignore me like I don’t exist I can be confrotional and argumentative but if someone is constantly going to accuse you and not just one person but 6-7 then how is this going to help u I’m only human and it can get a bit much I just wish she was a better Muslim and sister and I pray I can be a better communicator please pray for me

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Asked on September 3, 2016 6:54 pm
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السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُاللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ

Stay away from her.
Do not fall into her traps.
Know that Shaytaan is our open enemy.
Do not confide in her.
Do not let her confide in you.
Make a lot of Istighfaar.

وَعَلَيْكُمُ السَّلَام وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ وَمَغْفِرَتُهُ
Mufti Elias

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Answered on September 5, 2016 12:21 pm