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Assalaamualaikum muffed. I would like to know if my thinking is correct. My husband and I have been married for 11yrs. The first ten years was not so good I say this because my husband is never at home doesn’t make family time we see him maybe 3hrs a day not more and after years of crying and making due I have finally stopped crying and learned to accept that is the way he is don’t think that he is doing anything wrong and even if he was that’s not my problem because at the end of the day I am not going to answer for himself thoughts don’t even enter my mind as I believe that it comes from shaman. Anyway I’m to busy with my house chores to worry about what he is doing and shaker to allah every day I don’t sit and cry about that no more. What a waste of time and tears I say. I don’t worry about insignificant things like that any more rather make shaker for the roof over my head, the food I have to eat everyday, not the best but at least sum thing, he buys whatever I need in the home well 95% and that good enough for me, that I don’t have to go out and work anymore, the clothes I have to wear and many other things that might seem stupid to some people The problem. My mum came to live with us as she is not financially stable to look after herself. My mum 2nd time now has told me that this is not a marriage and it not suppose to be like this. She is not very happy even though it doesn’t bother me anymore doesn’t sleep out of the house, doesn’t talk much, sometimes rude and nasty, but who isn’t sometimes. I did try many years of tears and heart sore to change him and I couldn’t so I changed myself and my thinking. And I am much more contented with my life. It doesn’t bother me where he is and what he is doing yet she insist that it does. I tried explaining to her my way of thinking yet she insist it is not right and gets angry. Is my way of thinking not right.

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Asked on November 30, 2010 12:00 am
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May Allaah reward you for your positive nature as long as you are happy.
You proceed with life,
Try to find out why he is spending so much time outside.
Spend time in extra Ibadaat. At this stage do not be influenced by your mother's views.
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Answered on November 30, 2010 12:00 am