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As Salamu Alaikum. I have committed sin in the past and make dua to Allah to forgive me, My husband has known about all of this. I was always honest with him. I come from a family where there was always disputes and physical and mental abuse so I became “tough” my fathers family was always interfering in our family affairs and jealous. When I met my husband, it was not the most Islamic relationship but we tried not to go anywhere alone and we had a amall wedding , no photographers etc. My in laws never gave me anything in terms of gifts , jewellery etc and my husband gave me R200 mahar and then borrowed it in the first week of marriage. We constantly fight and argue. We have been married for five years and have a four year old Masha-Allah son who is the best thing in my life. My husband and I are very hurtful to each other. He has hit me many times even recently causing me to bleed from my ear and then he denies the seriousness later. His family is very supportive of him and have no regard for me and his sister does not even talk to me since we got married. I am depressed and although I love my husband and we have a son together I do not ever want him to grow up without either of us or to blame himself for our marriage breakup. Before we could get married I started getting sick and falling, blacking out etc. These things continued when we got married , i used to feel as though something was choking me and then i used to start vomitting etc, I use to fight with my husband and try to hurt hims physically and then collapse etc. At times he became frustrated and uttered Talaaq as he said that it became unbearable for him but he did not mean it he just wantd me to stop the fit of anger. He uttered it many times. We have been to moulanas and were on treatment as I was not in my right state of mind as something was apparently done to us. Please advise what we need to do as we do not know whether we need counselling or the marriage is over. How do we ever get back together if it is over.Please help we want to be together in harmony and with our son. We are distraught. As salamu Alaikum.

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Asked on January 9, 2009 12:00 am
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Sorry, your marriage is over. Sit for Iddat. Go for councelling. Be steadfast in Deen.
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Answered on January 9, 2009 12:00 am