Respected Mufti Saheb.
In 1991 my wife and I went for Haj. At the time we were satying with my parents and I worked in my fathers shop. I was not drawing a salary but since it was only my father and I, I took out expenses as and when needed. My father told us to go for Haj and the entire expenses for the trip were borne from the business (effectively by my father). At the time due to foriegn currency restrictions my father had some money overseas which was made available to us through a third party in Makkah. Bearing in mind that I did not have personal savings which made Haj Fardh on me or my wife, my father paid for everything plus money was made available for our use. The money we were given was accounted for on our return. My wife believes that since we were not made the owners (tamleek) and considering there was some tension within our home we were not prepared for Haj but rather it was thrust on us. Over the years my wife felt that though the Haj may have been fulfilled seemed very unsatisfied with the manner in which we performed Haj and only a few days ago she actually mentioned that she feels her Haj was not done. I feel that whatever the circumstances prevailing then our Haj has been fulfilled and any subsequent Haj will be Nafl (may I hasten to add we have not been for Haj since). With the above background I have the following questions for you:
a) Under the said situation was our Haj valid?
b) If for any reason the Haj was invalid how do I make good the situation?
c) If in all of this my father(now late) was at fault in any way, how can I make amends on his behalf?