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A boy is interested in marrying a girl. He calls her just before he’s leaving for Canada(home)the next day.
she reluctantly begins talking to him, as he says he’s really interested in marrying her, and he’s leaving the next day.He’s been honest about himself/ He’s a doctor and working so stable financially. he’s been divorced.He says he prefers to talk on the phone instead of proposing first- because he’s done it like that a few times previously and it hasn’t turned out favourably for him. he says he’ s scared of failing again as he hasn’t really failed at anything prior to his divorce, and states this as a reason for proceeding this way.They are talking, yet, the girl still fells uncomfortable as they have not met face to face,neither have their families met, thus cannot get advice from her relatives as to his character. She has told him that she thinks they should stop talking, and that he should inform them when he comes down from Canada so that they could meet and then begin talking. This would in no way constitute an acceptance of marriage, she has made that point.He would like her to consider talking as friends once a week, until such time. She is not certain that this is a good idea.she also, as educated and honest as he sounds, feels slight unease with him.they have also agreed to let each other know if they, in the interim, may receive a proposal;in such case they would not meet.She admits that she may not be the best muslim, yet she feels uncomfortable that he only reads “an average of 3 salaat” a day. I think she may also be sceptical.maybe he is a good person.
Please advise.

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Asked on November 16, 2012 12:49 pm
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Be careful. Reasons not valid. Contact un-Islaamic. Get parents involved to guide and aid. Avoid meeting totally.
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Answered on November 16, 2012 12:49 pm