As Salaam wa alaikum
Maaf to disturb you but I need your advice on my marriage. I might be on the verge of an emotional breakdown as I am so confused about my situation. Firstly my husband whom I dearly love has been giving me a hard time lately. I tried overlooking and asking him for maaf but he but he eventually stopped talking to me for almost 3 months and he always says things to degrade me. He even went to the extent of accusing me of having an affair I am deeply hurt as I work to provide food and clothing for our family as well as food for his mum whom we live with. She has always given me a hard time but with sabr I overcame the obstacles. I started to impose my rights as a wife on him so that he must start providing food for us as I cannot make it to fit the bills anymore, in which he refused point blank, saying that he also pays the electricity and his accounts so no money.
With sabr again i carried on and asked Allah for strength, but eventually it took a toll on me after eight years of marriage I left the house. I also performed Istikhaara before leaving. He asked me not to go eventually but I was adamant and I just could not take it anymore. I stayed at my parents house with my two young children. Then he says that i left them with no food in the house and he wanted to make this work. So i gave in and asked him to fetch me so we could give it another chance. But he refused to pick me up as he says that I went away on my own will and should come back the way i went, as he was not going to fetch me.
My parents didnt think I should have went back back as they feel that things will only get worse from previous experiences, but I do not want to displease Allah and I do love him. Eventually he brought his Hazrath Fareed Shah to come to my parents home and who also promised me that this will not happen again so i should give him another chance. So i went back. But now I am in a worse of situation, whereby his mum is speading rumours that I am having an extra marital affair and she still gives me a rough time and husband blames me for everything and supports his mum in whatever she says. I am so broken and I dont know what to do. I also begged him for us to go for marriage counselling and he refused. I did ask for advise from another Mufti at the time I was at my parents and Mufti advised me not to go back and He should give me a divorce.
Please give me some guidance. I would be most grateful.
Shukran.
