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I am married for 15 years. I have two sons. Last year my wife revealed to me that she made a mistake before marriage and committed fornication with a fellow student at university. She said it was only once. She also lied to me about other events in her past that was not sinful and she said that she did it to create a good impression of herself to me so that we would get married. She led me to believe before marriage that she was a virgin. I was a virgin and have only been with her. I was extremely angry for about a year and verbally abused her almost everyday. We barely speak to each other now. She says that I have been a very good husband and fulfilled all her needs. I am unhappy in my marriage but don’t want to divorce her because I believe I am the best person in my children’s life and can continue to provide for them and her.

My question is, am I doing grave injustice to her by not divorcing my wife because I am finding it difficult to forgive her although she does not want a divorce? Would I be committing a sin by taking a second wife because I am unhappy and want to find some solace with someone else yet my wife will be stuck in this situation with a husband who loves her no more but caters for all her needs?

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Asked on May 19, 2014 5:16 pm
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What if, after 10 years of your second marriage, you find out something that puts you in a similar situation? Although it may be difficult, but forgive your wife, remain in Nikaah, stop abusing her, do not be vulgar, and think positively. Matters could have been worse. Think of your own sins. Currently your wife is good, obedient, not immodest, and not immoral. Therefore there is no grounds for a divorce and a second marriage is definitely not the solution.
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Answered on May 19, 2014 5:16 pm